“The Gift of OCPD” is a self-help blog written by a recovered OCPDer for people with OCPD, their loved ones, and anyone else who is interested in learning about this highly misunderstood personality type.

In all of my research and self-examination, I have discovered that OCPD once used to be a wonderful personality type, before it became poisoned by hurt and anxiety. Most of the available information on OCPD, however, makes no reference to that original personality. The lack of this information gives readers very little to hope for. The purpose of this blog is to give readers that kind of hope and provide helpful strategies all in a way that works well with the thinking/learning style of people with OCPD (concise and organized writing, sequential ordering of information, analytical approach to problems with a heavy focus on logical reasoning, etc.).

It is my hope that those with or close to somebody with OCPD would experience an extraordinary life, not just a tolerable one.

Why labels?

Though the letters “OCPD” may be all over my website, I am not a fan of labels! Why do I use them here then? Even though we are all messed up in some way and we all could benefit from therapy and emotional healing, there are still too many people who think that they themselves or others are particularly more messed up. This leads many to “google” from a place of “what is wrong with me/them?” Google then spits out a lot of search results, prioritizing those that have been linked by other “relevant” websites. But as I mentioned before, so much of the information available on OCPD is disappointingly incomplete. All those people diagnosing themselves and others then are led to so much incomplete information. I use the letters “OCPD” all over my website to strategically compete in the OCPD keyword search result race, so that people might land on my more positive information as they are researching about this personality type.

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  1. Grey says:

    Dear Mr. Kim,

    Please do write more. I find I can connect with every single word you write. Having being diagnosed two days ago, I am now finding every possible article on how to do OCPD right. Unfortunately, all other articles found here on the net appear very psychiatric and medical in nature. Only yours shed light on how we can handle this better, set in a light-hearted and less threatening manner. Thank you very much.

    Fellow OCPD Superhuman

  2. Nick says:

    I was married to an OCPD person for one year after a brief courtship… It was a second marriage and we each brought children to the marriage. We got divorced last Summer. It took me 8 months of married life to figure out the source of her issues (OCPD), and the numerous therapists that we went together all missed it. I too had looked on the internet for practical information during the last vestige of my marriage to an OCPDr. I wish I would have come across a blog such as yours last year. It might have made a difference!

  3. Christina says:

    So glad I discovered this website upon a tunnel vision search for guidance on how to unchain myself from OCPD. Every part of your site is is spot on and it is nice to see the positive side of this, at times, disabling hypersensitivity!

  4. Hanan says:

    I just wanted to thank you for your amazing blog, it has helped me a lot!! No one really understands whats it like to have OCPD, even doctors can’t seems to get it.
    But you have described how I feel exactly, “which is scary cause no one seems to understand how my brain works” LOL.
    I have read everything you wrote and cannot wait to read your upcoming posts =)

    Thanks again.

  5. your site is a gift to me, as my dayghter ( 32 yrs ), unmarried and unemployed is OCPD, and I need to help her.

  6. iza says:

    Hi Kim, I just wanted to thank you for this site!
    it’s such a great idea, I’ve just been “diagnosed ” OCPD today and your website is a great support!
    thanks a lot, hope you’ll keep on posting!
    best wishes from France ;)

  7. Roy says:

    How can I get OCPD?

    I want this now!

  8. Ky says:

    Daniel, I am so encouraged by your blog, and at this moment your danthology is putting a huge smile on my face. I have been very distressed this week because, in the midst of research I was doing online with regard to my marriage problems, I discovered that I have OCPD and it is really damaging my relationship with my wife.

    All the information I have found about OCPD has been very upsetting EXCEPT for your blog.

    Thank you so much. All best to you, brother.


  9. Angela says:

    Mr. Kim,

    You are amazing! I’ve only just begun reading your site and everything you explain is exactly right. After several years of not seeing a therapist, I started seeing a new one for my anxiety. I’ve had OCPD for many, many years and didn’t even know it. I was not upset when this was discussed though, I was happy to know why I am the particular way I am. And I love it! I’ve made so much progress towards working out the difficulties it has caused in my life and haven’t been happier! It makes me feel like I get the best of both worlds, if you know what I mean by that. I’ve bookmarked your site and look forward to visiting often.

    Thanks for the smiles!


  10. Angela says:

    I’d also like to add that I’ve always felt as if there was ‘something’ else about me other than having anxiety. I could never put my finger on it and hadn’t heard of OCPD, though I’ve read so much about psychology. I also knew that OCD didn’t quite fit me either. For some reason I had never came across it. My last semester in college, which I just finished, I took Abnormal Psychology as an elective. Funny thing is, my therapist brought it up to me about a month before we covered it in class. So in the end, I found it refreshing to learn this about myself and have read so much about it since. I just love your blog!

  11. ezuhaib says:


    I’m a physician and have a fair understanding of psychology (and psychiatry). I have always disagreed to the way OCPD got classified as a disorder. The disagreements reached a point when I stop referring to the scientific texts on OCPD and started digging into my mind on my own. This experience turned out to be disturbing as mind is so enigmatic yet I was so obsessed of unraveling its patterns..

    I have known your blog for quite some time. I used to be skeptical of it. But now that I believe that our own experiences, as obsessive perfectionists, are more useful than current science in learning ourselves… I now absolutely love your blog. It makes sense. It makes sense so much that I’ve quit searching for words to translate concepts that have been hanging in my head for a long time.

  12. Samer Harb says:

    hi daniel l really love al ur work its soooo amazing and i wonder if u told me about how u create great mix like i doo plz can u tell me ?

  13. Priya says:

    Your blog is hope and strength for me. Thank you very much for writing all articles in a positive note. I love your work.

  14. Please turn your articles into a book. Your insights are very useful to anyone with OCPD. Thanks.

  15. Genna says:

    Thank you so much for everything that you post here. It’s so comforting to come to a site that explains everything that I have always experienced. It is an incredible feeling to see my insane thoughts and behaviours in writing. Yes, i am crazy, but the craziness has a name! Your site has helped me in so many ways. I cannot thank you enough. Keep up the great work.

  16. Noely says:

    I only just stumbled on your blog, and I find the content of the highest quality. Thank you!

  17. Joyce says:

    I am overwhelmed by the emotions I feel when I read your blog. I love it. I am so thankful that you wrote it. I also have OCPD, but my MBTI is ENFP. I am not sure if being an ENFP fits with your view of OCPD, but I love your blog regardless. I think you are amazing and wish you all the best.

  18. Omar says:

    Having a bad day. My Ocpd is in full gear , but reading your blog gave me hope and some energy to keep on. Thanks.

  19. Wilder says:

    In my OCPD husband’s case it is not a quest for excellence, it is a quest to always have his way. Even if his way is destructive and doesn’t produce the results he wants. It just had to be his way or else. He has tantrums like a 5 year old who wants the cookie now, and is frighteningly abusive. There’s a real dark side to OCPD.

  20. Jade says:

    Hi, I am suddenly learning about OCPD after having a major substance abuse problem that escalated into a rapid spiraling downward of my professional life/personal life, followed by a nervous breakdown (which I realized has been caused by my OCPD). It’s only been a couple of days, but I’m learning now that all of this was NOT directly caused by the drug/alcohol problem, but the root of it and how I chose to deal with it. I would like to learn more about substance abuse problems with OCPD, because I genuinely feel that I used them to “force” myself into losing control – couldn’t do it on my own. And I’m sure there are others out there like me.

    At first I wanted to email or post asking if there was a certain way to be able to view everything on the site in order, because I didn’t want to miss a single page or read it in the wrong order. Then I realized that it was just my OCPD-self thinking that and kind of laughed :) Still learning a lot about it but I’m glad I’m at least able to laugh about these things now that I can see them. Always thought that was somewhat normal behavior. Next step is to learn more so I can develop strategies to channel it.

    So thanks again for creating this!!

  21. Emma Rose says:

    What a fantastic blog. So courageous of you! I follow your blog now, and I cant thank you enough for being so transparent and genuine! If your interested I would love for you to check out my blog about living with OCPD and mental illness

    http://wp.me/p445Fd-Q <—–Perfectly Obsessed

  22. Jennifer says:

    Thank-you for your blog; I love your perspective from this “About” section, and look forward to exploring the rest of it. I have OCPD traits and (unlike most, from what I’ve read) am both aware of it and really want to change. It is slow going but I feel optimistic. Your blog will help me to keep focused on the RIGHT things like kicking my OCPD in the butt and enjoying life!!! Versus the wrong things (the current obsession that usually sucks up all of my time and energy). It will be nice to hear your perspective on OCPD. Thanks for writing!

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