“The Gift of OCPD” is a self-help blog for
- People with OCPD seeking full recovery, not just symptom control
- Loved ones of sufferers of OCPD seeking to understand OCPD and learn how to be more supportive, not more critical
- Gifted adults and parents of gifted children seeking to understand the emotional needs that come with being highly sensitive
- Regular people who enjoy closely examining their emotions, thoughts, and behaviour for the purpose of improving their emotional well-being
My name is Daniel Kim and I am a recovered OCPDer. I have always been a very emotional person who feels everything so intensely. Not knowing how to handle my intense emotions and thoughts growing up, I did all the “wrong” things (when I say “wrong,” I am not trying to frame OCPD as a moral problem, but I am simply referring to those responses that end up worsening my emotional well-being in the long run). It was only when I hit “rock bottom” (hopeless, depressed, self-harming, suicidal, bedridden, broken hearted, isolated, unable to work, moneyless, addicted) that I realized I needed to change how I respond to my intense emotions and thoughts. In two years, I went from being emotionally impoverished to being full of joy.
I do not want others to have to go through the pain that I went through. In my past, I did some terrible things and hurt many people. No one understood that, beneath all my hurtful ways, I carried so much hurt, brokenness, and insecurities. Many people judged, rejected, and criticized me. This only worsened my condition. The thing that really turned things around for me was love. When I felt so unlovable and unacceptable for my ways, good people gave me unconditional love and acceptance. When I felt so worthless, good people looked at me and listened to me as if I was full of beauty and wonder. Having been on the receiving end of both judgment and love and personally experiencing much greater results with the latter, I am a big supporter of extending unconditional love and understanding to those who behave in hurtful ways, no matter how twisted and evil their crimes are (in this VLOG, I even help others understand Elliot Rodger, 22-year-old college student responsible for the 2014 Isla Vista killings). I write, speak, and counsel, not out of a place of detached superiority, but out of a place of empathy and care.
Although the letters “OCPD” may be written all over my website, it is not because I believe in labelling people. I do it for search engine optimization purposes.